Life promises roses and thorns. So, at some point in our life we are guaranteed to smell the pleasing scent of flowers, or bleed by the prick of a thorn. The irony in life is some spend many years thinking the scent of flowers bad, and the prick of thorns good. ALVN will define bad as anything that negatively alters our personality, damages our health, brings out emotions that are harmful to us and others, and eventually diminishes. A fork in the road is when we are finally awoken to change, accepted reality, and killed every excuse. This article begins from the point of freedom; a step beyond the fork in the road. Let’s consider examples of the bad we walk away from:
- An abusive relationship.
- An unhealthy friendship.
- Stagnation in a certain location.
- A steady career that replaces our true dreams and desires.
The new path is wrought with uncomfortable and unexpected realities, like:
- Loss of excitement
- A pull to return to the old
These uncertainties make us want to turn back to the familiarity of the past because “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t.” Yet, when we allow ourselves to go through the process, these discomforts stretch us and make us better.
If we look back we could be tempted to think that the old wasn’t so bad after all, and if we took a step back we could change it from within. We self blame, and think ourselves undeserving of the new. So we walk back into:
- The pain
- Broken dreams
If we choose to move forward we must have the right beliefs and actions to succeed:
- Get a great support system.
- Remove anything that might pull you back (phone numbers, social contacts, and friends).
- Achieve financial independence. *There are third party resources to help abuse victims.
- Read books, listen to podcast, and meditate on scripture for affirmation.
- Face your fears realizing that bravery is moving forward in spite of it.
Finally, know that at some point everyone will come to a fork on the road. When you are unsure of the way to go, take the path less traveled for you, for it leads to change, much reward, and a better tomorrow.
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
Keep on, and don’t look back.